A foundational obstacle to self-esteem which undermines any amount of internal work or external achievement: Asking for permission to exist, thinking that any interaction with another’s existence is an intrusion until proven otherwise. There are a couple of ways this expresses itself: Treating yourself as unwelcome by default in every space and looking around for …
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Natalism
If you’re a young parent, you’re more likely to scar your children with your psychological issues that might have had time to resolve if you had children later, when you’re likely wiser and calmer. The young parents who get this mature rapidly, and become great parents. In a lot of trad circles, they get this …
Toughness and Empathy
If you were able to mind-over-matter something, to push your body’s limits, perform some feat of resilience or training, overcome great pain, then your body was always capable of it. You were gifted with it, it’s not something you should take full credit for. If you are disabled, and you managed to overcome that by …
Unique
Everything everyone does is a trick, a conspiracy or *unforgivable* incompetence. Except you, of course. Only you (or your friends) are earnest & rational. And when you mess up, especially when stressed, you deserve benefit of the doubt, because humans make mistakes. *Your* decisions have to be evaluated fairly, in context. And if these are …
Love
Ask a partner or an amicable ex whom you had a real connection with about a picture they find themselves looking at or remembering you by: it’s always going to be something plain, blurry, goofy, cute, dressed down, overly cheerful, cheesy, dangerous or even downright ugly. The little insignificant notes, every hurried scribble and todo …