A foundational obstacle to self-esteem which undermines any amount of internal work or external achievement: Asking for permission to exist, thinking that any interaction with another’s existence is an intrusion until proven otherwise. There are a couple of ways this expresses itself: Treating yourself as unwelcome by default in every space and looking around for …
pamphleteering
Unique
Everything everyone does is a trick, a conspiracy or *unforgivable* incompetence. Except you, of course. Only you (or your friends) are earnest & rational. And when you mess up, especially when stressed, you deserve benefit of the doubt, because humans make mistakes. *Your* decisions have to be evaluated fairly, in context. And if these are …
Love
Ask a partner or an amicable ex whom you had a real connection with about a picture they find themselves looking at or remembering you by: it’s always going to be something plain, blurry, goofy, cute, dressed down, overly cheerful, cheesy, dangerous or even downright ugly. The little insignificant notes, every hurried scribble and todo …